I need more. Specifically, I need to consciously make an effort to be more patient with my daughter. I spend so much of my time with Ben, and trying to keep up with everything, that Kaia tends to get my reserves. Since even at my best I am not known for my patience (to understate the issue) I have lately noticed that I am snapping at her overmuch.
When the time is there, I need to let her go at her own pace. I need to let her muse about her world. I need to let her be silly or serious, at her own pace.
Sometimes, true, we need to be going now, we need to be there now, it has to happen now. But often, it doesn't need to. It can happen later...or never. How can I tie and gag this built in part of me that feels the need to speed us up? That tries to get to the end before enjoying the middle?
This is my goal for this week. To slow down. To just. slow. down. let my daughter be herself, let her move through her world at her own pace.
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just the fact that you are thinking about this is proof that you are a wonderful Mom, my darlin' heart. You are going to master this too, just like you do everything that you undertake. ~mom
I wanted to say exactly the same thing like what Sarah had said here. You ARE a wonderful mom because you noticed these things...
I told someone recently that I connect to my son and my daughter in different way. I felt I grew up with my son - I learned how to be a mother while he learned how to deal with this "mom-in-training." Every step we took was a brand new experience for me then. God knows how many trail-errors I had!
When Joy came, I was trained and practiced. We have this mom and daughter relationship, but with my son, I feel more like a comradeship. I wonder if this is part of the deal with being the first kid/parent. I wonder if Sarah would say the same about you...
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