Two things. First, a funny thing my daughter said. Second, how I realized I needed to have it be said to ME.
So yesterday we're in the car on the way home. Ben is fussy because he's tired, and Kaia is grumpy because she had to leave her friend's house.
Kaia: Mom, Ben calms down when I pay attention to him. I think he just wants attention. (said in an exasperated tone)
Me: Okay, well, you could sing him a little song.
Kaia: I don't want to.
Me: Okay, you don't have to entertain him.
Kaia: (after a pause) Mom, can I tell him it's not all about HIM?
So, as I said in my whiny post, it could just be me taking things personally. And after a VERY nice email from the friend in question here is my conclusion.
I am extremely self-absorbed. Not all the time of course, but in situations like this. Because in the email she mentioned all the reasons -and almost all of them I was already aware of -that she has been busy: she's pregnant, has a 5 year old, her husband has been almost living at work (not willingly), she has a big over-seas trip coming up, she's had to plan and go to multiple doctor appointments for her and her family and her pets, and, not mentioned in her email, she has been helping out a neighbor whose back went out.
Yeah. Am I taking things too personally much? sheesh. Sometimes, I really just need to ask my daughter to tell me...
"Mom! It's not all about YOU!"