I talked with Mike yesterday about helping me get more sleep. (thanks, Tania and mom, for kickstarting that)
There are several roadblocks. One, up until now, I tried to take a nap when Ben was sleeping after dropping off Kaia at school, but he usually fell asleep on the way home and woke up when I took him out, not falling asleep until I put him in the car to go pick Kaia up. However, after next week, Kaia is out of school, so I'll be able to take a nap in the mornings.
A few people have suggested having Mike take over one or more of the night feedings, which is where I'm really not getting enough sleep. Ben still wakes up 5-7 times a night to eat. He goes right back to sleep each time, which is good, but it's really starting to wear on me. The problem with Mike taking over a couple feedings is that I still wake up when Ben does, usually before Mike (if Mike wakes up at all) With how attuned I am to doing this, I really don't think time will help me sleep through one or two feedings a night, but still get up for others.
However, Mike offered to take over Saturday night feedings all together! It'll take several weeks I think for Ben to get used to it. Last night I slept on the couch and still woke up every time Ben did. Ben also wasn't happy about the change, and cried each time, so not only was I awake, I was awake longer than I would have been if I were feeding him. I think I am going to start feeding him formula for a bottle or two each night so he gets used to it, and hopefully in time he'll get to the point he doesn't cry-so then I won't wake up as long as I am out on the couch. Another really awesome effect was that Mike got a good idea of how I feel, AND he's aware it's even worse for me. The poor man was exhausted this morning, and looked at me with admiration for doing this for the last 8 months. He was sympathetic about it before, but now he understands. If I can keep up with feeding Ben a bottle a couple times each night, next Saturday I may get a couple of hours of uninterrupted sleep! If I can remember how...
Mike has been taking Ben occasionally in the evening allowing me to go to bed early, and we're going to do that a bit more often.
So keep your fingers crossed that all this will add up to me getting a little more sleep. Wish us luck!